Sunday, May 30, 2010

Alex's Privacy vs. His Personal Truths

By Pam

PhotobucketAlex has said of himself:
"I am a very private person. I have my life and I have my family..."
"I’m a very private person and my house is my sanctuary…”
"I'm very private and I have a real sanctuary with a little garden. I just go home and do my thing."
“I’m very private, and I keep a very low profile."
I don't know what Alex means exactly. Privacy can mean different things to different people, but I'm guessing he likes having a place where he can be “normal” in private. Somewhere where he can be himself without feeling like he’s under a microscope. This is different from being secretive about his private life. Alex has spoken of his family life on many occasions. Most recently, with the release of The Back-up Plan, he repeatedly mentioned in interviews that he has a son whom he cherishes. I learned Alex was twenty when his son was born and was present for the birth. I heard Alex say he fed his "bub" raw fish. All this I would consider personal information. Yet, Alex allows us to be privy to it. He's given us information about his mother, father and sister. He’s admitted he had a bit of OCD as a kid, “…quite a bit, actually. I wouldn’t step on a crack. It would take me an hour to get my shoes tied, because I had this weird OCD thing.” He has also mentioned his ADD in several interviews.

Then there's this:
"The closer you get to who I actually am, and ‘Stan’ [The Back-up Plan] has a lot of attributes that I have, the harder it is for me. The harder it is to put that on screen and to show my true self because as actors, a lot of us are very private with our true self. And [the reason] we’re so good and so comfortable on the job that we do, is because we can hide."
I really don't think we can see much deeper into a man's soul than this. Why would a person in his position, on the brink of fame, allow us to know such personal truths? Maybe to placate the people who need to know. It stops them from digging. It feeds them enough so they don't want to go knocking on the door of his sanctuary where he maintains his privacy. Don’t feel bad that he’s alone in there, though. He said about playing the guitar, “It’s a hobby for me, but I’m never alone if there’s a guitar there.”


  1. We all need a place, where we can be, who we are. Also Alex.
    What a wonderful article about Alex. I love it. Thank you.

  2. Nice Blog Pam. I think Alex is open an honest about the parts of his life that he chooses to reveal. He is very accommodating to the fans. I do respect him for the need to keep a part of his life private and shield is child from the lime light.

  3. Thanks Eva and Vicki. I appreciate your positive feedback.

  4. Strangely enough I think a lot of women fans "fell" for Alex in his role as Stan. This means they like him, in a great part, for who he really is. A man who is prepared to let go of his ego and raise anothers child as his own. Wonder if real life will imitate art one day?

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